(Illustration by Nick Galifianakis for The Washington Post)

Column by Carolyn Hax

Adapted from an online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn: My husband and I have been married a long time, and our kids are all grown but in various stages of independence. They are all in long-term relationships, but none are married. Subscribe for unlimited access to The Post You can cancel anytime. Subscribe

When they visit along with their significant others, my husband wants them, until they are married, to stay in separate bedrooms. I disagree and feel that managing the intimate relationships of other adults is inappropriate. And I worry this will make them want to visit less.

I understand the concept that his “no” would be the default since the alternative is an affront to his values. But his boundary aff

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