DEAR ABBY: My husband has four grown children — one from his first marriage; three with his late wife. Talk about drama! Who talks to whom? Who can’t stand whom? Who gets annoyed when one of them comes to visit us? They could be BFFs today and tomorrow stab each other in the back.

Recently, my husband has been saying he’d like to see his four children and all his grandchildren together. Actually, his exact words were, “I guess the only time I’ll see all my kids together in one room is when they come to my funeral.”

My husband has a milestone birthday approaching. I’ve been thinking about having a surprise birthday party for him at a restaurant and inviting all the kids and grandchildren. I’ve thought about texting or emailing all of them with a note letting them know their dad’s wishes

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