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Dear How to Do It,

I am usually painfully shy about initiating conversations regarding kinks with my partners, but I’ve been seeing someone new for six months now. I’ve always secretly longed for the gentle and erotic sort of power play that comes with the whole “Daddy Dom/good girl” dynamic (not age play, and not incest play). I’m struggling to work up the nerve to indicate to him that I like this sort of thing, as I’m very scared of being rejected. Do you have any insight into the percentage of men who like this sort of kink? And do you have any advice about how I might hint at or steer him toward that dynamic?

—Daddy’s Girl

Dear Daddy’s Girl,

Unfortunate

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