DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have a friend who frequently invites us by for brunch. She has a lovely, immaculate, pet-free and pristine home. We feel as though we should reciprocate the invitation.

However, our home is the antithesis of hers: small, cluttered and quite pet-friendly. We want to invite her over, but we feel that she would not be comfortable in our home. Plus, she often doesn’t even eat much of the food that she serves at brunch, so we aren’t even sure of her dietary preferences.

Should we not worry too much about these things and go ahead with an offered invitation? We don’t want to put her on the spot, but we also don’t want her to think we only want to see her in her own home.

GENTLE READER: Presuming that one’s home or food will never be good enough for an exceptional host ha

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