DEAR MISS MANNERS: We used to have next-door neighbors we were extremely close with. We had meals together once or twice a week, and even watched their 2-year-old twins for a weekend when they had to leave for a funeral.

They started distancing themselves from us due to politics, and eight years ago, they moved away without even saying goodbye. Recently, out of the blue, we received some random text messages from the wife, and then, by mail, we received graduation announcements for each of their boys.

Given the break in the friendship, which was not our choice, are we obligated to send gifts? I am happy to send a nice note congratulating them on their graduation, but my partner feels we should send gifts.

GENTLE READER: A milestone announcement is not a subpoena for gifts.

Well, Miss M

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