My mom told me she never wanted grandkids. When I became pregnant, she was distant and absent

• My mother told me she never wanted grandchildren because she'd been raising kids most of her life. • When I got pregnant, my mother wasn't excited, and she remained distant. • She eventually came around to love my child, healing our mother-daughter relationship.

When I told my mom I was pregnant, she didn't hug me. She didn't even smile. She just went silent, and I wasn't surprised.

She had always made it clear that she never wanted grandkids, and I knew that going in. But I was now married, and my husband and I really wanted to start a family.

So I lowkey hoped she'd come around, even a little. But no — she didn't.

She was tired of caregiving

My mom's life always revolved around caregiving. She lost her dad when she was 12 and became a second parent to her younger sibling becau