This hat on my head had a mind of its own

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I am not a hat person. They just don’t sit well on my head. I either look like I’m trying too hard to look trendy, or like I have no idea of how to look trendy. For some, hats complete an outfit. They are seen as a fashion accessory. I see hats as a required safety and sun-blocking necessity. I need a baseball cap for sports, sure, and a bike helmet is mandatory, but other than that I go full-on commando.

Which brings me to the first and only time I’ve ever bought a fashionable hat.

My husband had recently been diagnosed with cancer and I was on full-time duty as a loving caregiver. I had spent many months putting one foot in front of the o