DEAR ABBY: My husband and I had two sons, “Seth” and “Jason,” who were best buddies. Seth passed away a year and a half ago, which has been really hard on us all, but especially on Jason.

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He’s now 17 and in high school. He’s doing OK, but he is still sort of listless and keeps to himself a lot.

My sister’s son, “Matt,” was the same age as Seth. She suggested he come stay with us on school breaks as company and a role model for Jason. She dotes on Matt and implies it’s a sacrifice for her to give up time with him for us.

Her impulse seems sweet, but frankly, I don’t want Matt around Jason. He smokes pot, sleeps most of the day and plays video games the rest of the time. He is not doing well in school and has no ambition. He also drives while he’s high, which I realized

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