Asking Eric: I meant no harm by the compliment I paid a friend

DEAR ERIC: I have known my friend Steve for more than 10 years. He is a different race than me, but race has never been an issue until recently. I texted him to compliment him on how his looks, personality and family life reminds me of a well-known actor who is a well-respected family man and good-looking. It was a compliment.

He responded by telling me that he was offended by the racist comment and to retract the comment. I refuse because the actor has done nothing illegal, has a good character, is a positive family man, is a good actor and is nice-looking. All characters Steve has. I’m at a loss. How do I respond?

– Compliment

DEAR COMPLIMENT: It seems easiest to tell Steve, “I meant no harm by what I said and I’m sorry that it offended you.” Not only is this the truth, but it doesn’t