DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a longtime friend who has a habit of waiting until the last minute to confirm plans or even make them.

One Sunday morning, she asked me if I would like to come over and go for a walk sometime that week and then stay for dinner. I said, “Does Wednesday work for you? It looks like the weather will be OK that day.”

On Tuesday night at 8:30, she responded, “We can’t go tomorrow now because I’ve been called about getting a CT scan done for my implant.”

She has been doing this for at least 20 years. How do I kindly tell her that what she is doing is not respectful without getting her mad?

GENTLE READER: If she has been getting scans on her implant for 20 years, there might really be something wrong here.

But if what you meant is that she has been coming up with 20

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