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Dear Prudence,

My fiancé’s parents are lovely people, and they’ve always been kind to me. They’ve also never experienced much family conflict or dysfunction. That’s great! But they’re horrified that I’m not inviting my parents to the wedding, and keep pushing me to reconsider. Trust me, that is a VERY BAD idea.

I love my parents, but they’re … dysfunctional. My mom left my dad for his brother (spare me the jokes, I’ve heard all of them) and my dad is still very, very angry at everyone. My mom is avoiding her guilt by telling everyone who will listen about how much happier she is now and about how she made the right choice because how could she stay with someone so angry.

We see them separately and briefly. They ha

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