Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

My ex-boyfriend and I shared an iPad, and I took it in the “divorce.” It was logged into his personal iCloud account and I never bothered to log out. Recently I discovered that his photo stream seems to load every picture he takes with his phone automatically onto the iPad. And the man has been taking photos —of him having sex, in particular. He seems to have leaned into a particular fetish/type of play that I never took to, and I’m genuinely happy for him. (You can probably guess by that last sentence that I didn’t immediately dele

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