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Dear How to Do It,

I’m in my late 40s and perimenopausal but none of the doctors I’ve spoken to, including menopause experts and gynecologists, seem to know anything about one particular change that’s happened. None of their other patients seem to have experienced it, and it’s not in medical literature, either. It could be a superpower—as long as it’s not also a health warning.

Let’s just say I’m newly, uh, fluid in my sexuality.

I’ve never had a problem with lubrication, but until now, I’d only squirted a handful of times in my life. I did it once in my 20s when I didn’t know anything about anything and my asshole boyfriend shamed me for peeing on him (I know ther

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