DEAR ABBY: My sons are married and live quite a distance from me. I try to visit several times a year because I want to see my grandchildren as often as I can. Sometimes I stay with them; other times I rent an Airbnb.

The problem is that I am a neat-nut. When I’m at their house, I empty full sinks of dishes, clean bathrooms, sweep floors, polish mirrors/windows, dust furniture, etc. I’ll even do laundry if they want.

I do ask if they mind if I clean up a bit, as they all work and have little time for this. They usually say “Sure!” But lately I’m feeling they regard this like I think they’re dirty, and they say that cleanliness is not a priority in their lives. OK, I get it.

I have decided to stop this activity when I’m there. Am I wrong to want to help out? Just wondering if I’m out of

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