Carolyn Hax: Does cohabiting in his house mean they split his remodeling costs?

Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend and I have been together going on four years. We are planning for me to move into his house in a few months. However, sometimes I feel weird about paying 50 percent for a house I didn’t choose and a mortgage I didn’t sign off on. But I really want to move in and that’s not going to stop me. Plus, we have plans to buy another house in a couple of years, one that we choose together, and sell the current house.

Boyfriend recently mentioned that he wants to remodel the kitchen and bathroom to increase the resale value and assumed I’d pay for half of it. I was shocked, and this brought up those weird feelings again about paying for half of things I didn’t choose. Advertisement

Am I right to feel weird about this? Isn’t this just