Dear Eric: My husband and I have been married for 40 years. He has two adult sons in their 60s, and I have an adult daughter in her 50s.

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Over the years we gave large sums of money to one son, who has two children, and my daughter, who has one child, in order for them to keep their houses while they were going through divorces.

We have contributed to all three grandkids with college 529 funds.

The other son has never married, has no children, owns his own condo, and has a good-paying job and spends all of it on whatever he fancies. He has a longtime girlfriend who supports herself. She stays with him a day or two a week.

He feels that we should “gift” him the same amount of money that we have given the other two children, which would be more than $20,000.

Financially

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