DEAR ERIC: I’m a 72-year-old active person in several social groups. Is there a tactful way to ask if my peers have a partner at home or live alone? When I was younger it was an easy question to ask but I worry I might upset someone widowed or divorced. I have a lot of friendly acquaintances but I’m not sure how to progress the friendship when such a simple question feels taboo. I’d appreciate your feedback.

– Personal Question

DEAR QUESTION: I think it can still be tactful to ask, “Are you married?” Or “if you don’t mind me asking, are you in a relationship?” Perhaps you’d preface it by sharing your relationship status. We share information and ask for information in return as a way of getting to know people. I find that some widowed people enjoy being asked to talk about their partner.

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