Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. When we were living together, we would have sex maybe once every six to eight weeks, which was frequent for me and infrequent for her due to different sex drives. Now that we’re apart, and I only see her once every couple of months, something she used to do sometimes is now something she does almost every time I see her. She will ask to make out, and then when we’ve been making out for several minutes, tell me that she’s horny now. The thing is, 90 percent of the time, I would b

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