DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been frequenting a pub for a while now. My favorite bartender is very kind, and always gets me my favorite drink. I don’t drink alcohol, which she knows, and I make sure to drink enough nonalcoholic beverages for her to earn a profit.

The problem is, she regularly provides me with free alcohol shots. Is there any way to stop her?

GENTLE READER: Kindly ask her not to?

Remind her that you do not drink, but that you are more than happy to join her with shots of juice or anything else

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