Asking Eric: How do I tell my husband, who hides things from me, that I want to separate?

Dear Eric: My husband “Bob” and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this past spring. He has many wonderful qualities, but he’s also a “lone wolf” who very rarely asks for my input or help.

A few months before he retired, I discovered he’d gone on a hike with a young, pretty coworker.

Many years before, he’d had a two-year affair with another coworker. It was a devastating experience for me.

After this latest instance, we both started going to individual therapists. We seemed to be moving toward a healthier situation when I caught him “day drinking.” He admitted he had a drinking problem and started going to a harm-reduction program.

We started couples’ therapy.

Then I discovered that he’d opened a new bank account and bought crypto without discussing it with me.

I’m thinking I need t