DEAR HARRIETTE: A new friend I met at a workout class suggested we grab lunch together and mentioned it would be her treat.

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I thought that was really kind, and I was excited to get to know her better outside of class.

When the bill came, it sat on the table for a while; neither of us touched it. Eventually, I picked it up and asked if she wanted to split it, and she said yes immediately. I was caught off guard because she had clearly said beforehand that she wanted to treat me, so I hadn’t expected to pay.

It’s not about the money — I don’t mind paying for myself — but it left me feeling a little awkward and unsure if I had misunderstood her. Was she just being polite when she offered, or did she forget what she had said?

I don’t want to make things weird by bringing

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