MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the etiquette for who cooks the turkey for Thanksgiving dinner? We have family members who requested that our daughter cook and bring the turkey -- after she makes a 12-hour drive with two toddlers and her husband.

GENTLE READER: Whoops, etiquette does not have a rule designating the turkey cook.

Should it be the person who is closest to the oven? The one who does it best? The one who didn’t do it last year? The one who actually volunteers?

Miss Manners can think of exceptions that should be made to any of these. So it is fortunate that the matter can be settled by manners principles, of which there are a good supply.

For example, consideration of others. A smidgeon of that might sugges

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