DEAR MISS MANNERS: For the past 15 years or so, my wife and I have been hosting a potluck feast for Thanksgiving, with about 30 friends and family joining us at our house.

In our invitation, we announce that we’re supplying the turkey, soft drinks, booze and a few other staples, and ask others to bring an appetizer, side dish, dessert, etc. We even circulate a sign-up spreadsheet to keep things organized.

Years ago, when we began this tradition, everyone’s kids were teenagers and weren’t expected to contribute. But now they’re in their late 20s with good jobs, apartments, fiances and significant others, and they still don’t contribute. They literally step out of their cars empty-handed.

I guess we could put everyone’s name on the spreadsheet and ask them to indicate what they’re bringi

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