Q: We’re two months in. Everything else is great, but he says we have no chemistry. Can it build? Give it more time?

A: I have a genuine question for you: Why would you want to be with someone who tells you that he has “no chemistry” (those are strong words) with you? Don’t you think you deserve that, at a minimum?

With men, no, chemistry generally does not grow over time. (I am admittedly taking “chemistry” to mean physical chemistry or physical attraction, which is what a lot of men mean, though I could, of course, be wrong here.) I don’t know why he told you this versus just breaking it off. To make you insecure? Under the guise of “just being honest”? If he thought there was even a small chance the chemistry could grow, it feels cruel to tell somebody versus to simply keep dating to

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