DEAR ERIC: My sister won’t come home for the holidays. She’s not estranged from me or our parents. But she moved across the country about 15 years ago, started a family and seemingly never looked back. We’re not close but we’re not distant, if that makes sense. I asked her one time, two years ago, to come home for a holiday with her wife and kids. And she did. It was fine, but she got annoyed with our parents and then I got annoyed with her. One of her kid’s diabetes was all out of whack. It was a lot. She was there for all of 24 hours.

But I still want her around. She’s my sister. We’re both in our 40s and life is changing for all of us. Our parents won’t be here forever. And I’d like to be closer to her kids. Am I putting too much on this relationship? Are holidays really that important

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