A woman I’ll call Helen lives in Los Angeles and works in fashion. On set one day, a colleague told her bluntly, “There’s no separation between church and state.” He was referring to Helen’s jaw and neck. She was horrified. “I’m not about to start contouring,” she thought to herself. “I don’t even wear foundation.” So what was there to do about it? The mere question seemed to open the social media floodgates with surgical possibilities. “My Instagram and YouTube explore pages were so deeply dark,” Helen, 41, says. “My boyfriend made me take a screenshot of it so I could remember this.”

Luckily, she found a sympathetic ear: her friend Lucy, who felt just as insecure about her own church and state. (All the names in this story have been changed — you’ll get why.) After discovering “Yelp mee

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