Key points
Many people believe that talking about what's wrong is how to "work on one's marriage."
Criticism often backfires.
Focusing on the positive can yield more connection.
How we talk about disappointments matters.
"If you can't say anything nice..." Source: http.disneyclips.com
Do you remember the movie, Bambi? Although it was actually made in 1942, many generations of children have seen it since.
I recently thought of Bambi because one of the characters in the movie—Thumper, a baby rabbit—was told by his mother to recite a lesson he had learned from his father, advice that I consider timeless.
"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all."
I wish more people embraced this philosophy !
Now, don't get me wrong, there are times when it's important to speak

Psychology Today

People Human Interest
Fast Company Lifestyle
NPR
AlterNet
Los Angeles Times Environment
Raw Story
Tampa Bay Times Sports
Bloomberg Quicktake