Key points

Most people over-romanticize sexual compatibility as something magic and immutable.

The truth is that learning the right way to talk about sex can improve compatability.

Strategies to move forward when you and your partner really are on different pages do exist.

In conversations I’ve had with hundreds of college students and social media followers, I’ve noticed a stubborn myth surrounding the idea of sexual compatibility. People love to romanticize it as if it’s some kind of cosmic spark.

You meet someone, sparks fly, and voilà, you either “have it” or you don’t.

But the truth is, sexual compatibility isn’t magic. It’s not about destiny. It’s about dynamics, and yes, it can evolve and deepen over time.

The Myth of Instant Chemistry

Our culture sells us the idea that

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