Miss Manners: Should I be offended my guests asked if I made the meal?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: These questions were posed at a dinner party I hosted: “Did you make this roast?” “Did you make these potatoes?”

I was a bit taken aback, but maybe I should just get over it. The meal was well received.

GENTLE READER: You found the questions rude because you believe that no self-respecting host would serve guests precooked food. Miss Manners thinks it more likely that your guests asked as a prelude to complimenting you.

So the proper answer is, “I did,” followed by a quick reply such as, “Would you like some more?”

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