Asking Eric: How do I celebrate son’s 40th when he has old beef with his dad?

Dear Eric: My son is turning 40 on Dec. 22. My husband and I are at a quandary as to how to celebrate him.

There have been issues between my husband and him over things from his childhood. We did a special trip for his older brother when he turned 40 and would like to do something special for this son’s 40th as well.

Our daughter-in-law has made special plans for him and we are not included. I understand that, but I need some ideas as to how to celebrate this extra special year without rocking the boat.

I love my son with all my heart, as I do all my children, and want his 40th birthday to be memorable in a positive way. Any suggestions?

— Mom who wants to celebrate

Dear Mom: The issues your son and your husband are having may be an obstacle, but they aren’t insurmountable. And the th