DEAR ABBY: I have been dating the most wonderful man I have ever met for more than a year, and we are planning to get married. One of the things we have bonded over is that we both want a multigenerational household. My boyfriend’s parents (who are in their 70s) have been living with him for the past two years, and this will continue for the foreseeable future.

As our wedding grows closer, I’m feeling increasingly anxious about the logistics of living with his parents. I like having minimal possessions, while they are borderline hoarders. My boyfriend knows I’m anxious about it and is willing to talk about the situation, but he also takes the position that he and his family are a package deal. I love him, but I don’t think I can sign up for 20 years of a cluttered house. What should I do?

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