“One of my friends has a young child who is not thriving in school. She is not failing, but she is underperforming. When my friend mentioned this, I could tell she is concerned but I was pretty certain she wasn’t looking for a solution from me.

“My older children are terrifically successful, in part due to some decisions I made when they were very little. What is a good way I can give her support without her ending up feeling like I’m judging her parenting?”

G: I’ve found that when people open up about an issue that is troubling them to outsize proportion, enough so to divulge it, most often they actually are looking for input that is constructive. They just don’t always come right out with the “ask.”

Typically, before they are able to receive that feedback, what they are wanting is to

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