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Dear Sam,

My sister has made the choice to pass my inheritance to my children, leaving me and my husband with financial stress for the rest of our lives. I find it hard to describe how I feel – it is somewhere between hurt and furious.

Our wonderful mum died a few months ago and we are very sad. She was in her 80s and died peacefully at home, which is the only blessing, and we know she would have been pleased not to have ended her days in a care home , since she saw my dad in care for the past year suffering with dementia and she did not want that for herself.

When dad first went into care, mum rewrote her will to pass her a

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