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Column by Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Dear Sahaj: I’ve been married to my husband for 30 years, and it’s the third marriage for both of us. I am judgmental about the values and behavior of my in-laws; I have been “being nice” for three decades and am running out of energy to maintain the facade. We are several steps more progressive than my husband’s family. He is relatively content with his stabilizing role as scapegoat in the extended family. PAID PROMOTED STORIES

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