Column by Judith Martin , Nicholas Martin and Jacobina Martin

Dear Miss Manners: We have a friend who frequently invites us by for brunch. She has a lovely, immaculate, pet-free and pristine home. We feel as though we should reciprocate the invitation.

However, our home is the antithesis of hers: small, cluttered and quite pet-friendly. We want to invite her over, but we feel that she would not be comfortable in our home. Plus, she often doesn’t even eat much of the food that she serves at brunch, so we aren’t even sure of her dietary preferences. Subscribe for unlimited access to The Post You can cancel anytime. Subscribe

Should we not worry too much about these things and go ahead with an offered invitation? We don’t want to put her on the spot, but we also don’t want her to t

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