A family dispute has emerged after a woman learned that her niece had moved across the country without informing anyone. The woman, who identifies herself as "Confounded in Kentucky," explained that her sister, Jenny, is upset with her for not disclosing the move sooner.

The situation escalated when Confounded discovered that her niece, Paisley, had sent some mail to her home. Paisley had been in a no-contact situation with her mother for six months following a significant argument. During this time, Paisley expressed to Confounded that she did not want to engage with her mother.

When Confounded learned of Paisley's move, she asked if she should inform Jenny, who had blocked her daughter. Paisley declined the offer, preferring to keep her mother in the dark. The situation took a turn when their mother, unaware of Paisley's relocation, received mail addressed to her and subsequently informed Jenny. This revelation led to an outburst from Jenny directed at Confounded.

Confounded questioned whether she was at fault for the fallout. In response, advice columnist Abby reassured her that she did nothing wrong. Abby noted that Jenny's anger was misdirected and that the real issue lies within the family dynamics.

Abby emphasized that Paisley’s decision to move was likely a step toward escaping family dysfunction. She encouraged Confounded not to accept blame for the situation, stating, "You are not a villain, and you should not accept being labeled that way."

In a separate letter, another reader, "Hearing Too Much in Ohio," expressed frustration over their spouse's habit of scrolling through videos on her phone while they are in the same room. Despite requests for her to use earphones, the spouse rarely complies, leading to feelings of annoyance and isolation for the writer.

Abby advised that while the spouse has the right to engage with her phone, it is inconsiderate to subject others to the audio without consent. She suggested that the writer continue to assert their needs and consider seeking help from a family therapist to improve communication. If that is not feasible, Abby recommended finding activities outside the home to connect with friends.