Dear Annie: My brother constantly leans on me for help -- rides across town, venting sessions that last for hours, favors that always seem urgent. Recently, it seems like his asks are getting more and more frequent. I always say yes, even when I’m exhausted or overwhelmed, because I don’t want to hurt his feelings or leave him hanging when he’s going through something.

I don’t want to have to turn him down. I like being there for the people I care about, especially family.

But the truth is, I’m starting to feel resentful. I get immediately filled with dread when I hear from him. I know something has to change, but I don’t know how to say “no” without damaging our relationship or making him feel rejected.

Why is it so hard to set boundaries with people you care about? And how can I take

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