I’m a loving husband and dad with decent levels of common sense. But if you saw how my wife treats me, you’d think I was completely incompetent.

She leaves clothes out for the children, who are four and two, to wear, as if I haven’t got myself dressed for the past three decades. The other day, when it was 30 degrees, she reminded me to take sun cream when I took the children out to the park. I feel undermined and slightly insulted.

At work, I manage a large team of people and if I micromanaged them like this I think they’d be really unhappy.

She does the bulk of the childcare and is a great mum, but how do I convince her I’m pretty decent too?

Resentful, age 38

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Dear Resentful,

I hear how undermined you feel and wonder if you might be taking this all too personally.

It sounds as

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