When a date doesn’t go well, men will often accuse women of adopting an “HR voice” — the polite, corporate way some women will text when they are done with dating you.

Suddenly, a flirtatious text thread starts sounding like a meeting with human resources.

I swear girls turn into the HR lady once they're done with you. 😂 pic.twitter.com/14GzS0CX9X — Jay 💊 (@therealjayber) August 5, 2025

And although men go to social media to joke and complain about this formal shift, the women who do or encourage this say it’s the kinder response.

“I’m the queen of a polite termination text,” said Emily Durham, a Toronto-based career coach and former recruiter who uses HR-speak when rejecting men she’s gone on a few dates with. “In times of stress, I default to speaking like I’m someone’s human re

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