First came demisexual. Then cupiosexual. Now? Graysexual. And no, we didn’t invent it. It’s a real term, and more people—especially Gen Z—are using it to describe the blurry space between feeling nothing and feeling something.

Graysexuality exists in the space between asexuality and allosexuality, which refers to regular sexual attraction. Some people who identify this way only feel attraction under very specific circumstances. Others say their desire flickers in and out, showing up occasionally, then disappearing for months.

The subreddit r/Graysexuality, now more than 8,000 members strong, has become a digital confessional for people finally putting words to what they’ve been feeling (or not feeling) for years. One user wrote: “I thought I was just broken or a late bloomer. Crushes wer

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