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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband and I are expecting our first child in October, and my sister is throwing a baby shower for me in a few weeks. Since my husband’s mother found out, she has made it her personal mission to put a halt to the event.

She claims that we are “inviting disaster” by holding it and accepting gifts for our baby before he arrives. I have told her that if she is not comfortable attending, that’s fine, but she doesn’t get to decide for me. Her response has been to tell me to go ahead, but “don’t be surprised when the baby is stillborn.” I’ve had enough. She is really starting to cast a pall over what should be a happy occasion. My husband tells me sh

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