Dear Annie: I don’t want to reconnect with old flame, but he keeps turning up

Dear Annie: I need advice on how to deal with a former fiancé. We dated for nearly a year before getting engaged, but the engagement lasted only a few months. Once we were engaged, he began laying down expectations for our future: dinner on the table at 5, how many children we would have, even which promotions I should turn down at work. I am a health professional with two graduate degrees, and our outlooks on life could not have been more different. I ended the engagement.

At the time, he told me I would regret it. I never have, not for a single moment. I have been happily married for over 30 years.

He eventually married as well, but I recently learned his wife passed away six years ago. Over the past two years, I have started seeing him around town, at the grocery store, at church. He