Dear Eric:

My husband sings at the top of his lungs to any song that is playing in a movie or a commercial or in the car or otherwise. It’s like nails on a chalkboard for me. I’ve tried telling him, but he takes offense. He tells me everyone tells him he has perfect pitch (he doesn’t), and it has come down to serious discord at times.

I have also tried telling him it takes me out of the moment, and also that it’s overstimulating for me.

His entire family tells him he has a beautiful voice. They also sing loudly and whistle out of key. It’s murder on my brain. The last few years I’ve just started telling him and everyone around us that I don’t like music and don’t care for it in the background.

I’m not embarrassed, it just hurts my ears, literally.

I realize it brings him/them joy, but

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