DEAR MISS MANNERS: I live in a very small apartment whose contents and decor I have curated according to my specific needs and taste. But even friends who know this about me give me gifts of coffee-table books, artwork, tableware, clothing and more, none of which I would have chosen for myself and none of which I have room for.

My gift preferences would be consumables -- food, flowers, nice soaps and the like -- and I do mention this when gifts are discussed.

Of course I am grateful for their kindness, and always thank them sincerely in a note, but I find myself regularly giving these presents away.

I once read that the purpose of a gift was to be received, which has alleviated some guilty feelings. So far, no one seems to have noticed that their presents are not present.

GENTLE READER

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