Dear Tefi,

I have the world’s worst friend picker. Once, my “best friend” sat me at a different table from the rest of the wedding party at her rehearsal dinner. After she got married, I never heard from her again. Another “best friend” blew me off, telling me she was “on her way” to a family event while she was actually just hanging out at a guy’s apartment. Then she was upset that I was upset. Another moved out while I wasn’t home and had her mom call my mom to tell me (whaaaatt). I must be the problem, right?

Bad Friend Picker

You are not the problem. Not even close. The problem is that you’re so willing to give people chances that you don’t pause to check if they even deserve the audition. We need to put folks on friend probation much faster. Sure, we can hold space for nuance: She’

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