MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A friend called me asking if she could crash at my place that same day. I thought that was super rude.

I felt very uncomfortable with her just unexpectedly telling me she wanted to stay at my place instead of getting a hotel room. She can afford it; money is not an issue.

She was visiting someone else, but didn’t want to stay at that friend’s house because she has a husband and two children, whereas I have more room.

Friends need to understand my house is not a crash pad. This is my sanctuary. It’s not an emergency.

GENTLE READER: Then why are you treating this as an etiquette emergency?

Of course it is your house, which is why it should be easy to tell a friend, “I’m so sorry, but that won’t

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