Dear Eric: I’m 73, divorced, and in fading health. I’ve never really fit in anywhere in my life. My son had a very rough start in life, and I overcompensated by helping him out far too long. He’s 43 and recently cut off contact with me because I wouldn’t buy a house his wife wanted. I’ve taken out a $15,000 loan for them and they are not making the payments as promised.

In the meantime, his twin sister feels abandoned because of the attention her brother received growing up. She lives across the country, and I haven’t seen them in three years. She has a good job and is raising two honor roll students.

How do I make amends to my daughter? I wonder if I have autism as I’m very awkward and have no real friends. Is 73 too late to be tested and would it do any good to know?

– Locked Out of L

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