Q: Lately, I seem to be fighting with everyone. Every new day brings a new conflict. Is there a reason conflict seems to be increasing today? In addition, what can I do for myself to reduce these conflicts?

A: Yes, conflict is increasing because uncertainty and fear make people touchy. Yes, you can do something. Try figuring out what inner hooks these outer issues are grabbing.

Let’s say someone tells you that you’re wrong. You can explain yourself, defend yourself, counter attack, or get more information. Be aware that most people expect the first three, but not the last option.

Consider that when anyone invites you to a conflict, you’re free to opt out. Opting out means saying, “You may have a point, can you tell me more?” The other party then needs to make sense and problem solve.

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