Dear Annie: Poured myself into friend group for nearly a decade; just realized how little I get out of it

Dear Annie: I wonder if you could shed some light on something that’s been bothering me.

I have five girlfriends I’ve been close with for many years. I keep their secrets, I don’t talk behind their backs, and I’ve always treated them with respect. As we’ve gotten older and more serious about our lives, we each began moving out on our own, getting engaged and getting married.

When I got engaged, my fiance did it in a very big way. I was taken by surprise, and he even arranged for someone to film it. I was very excited to share the DVD of our engagement with my friends, but the day I brought it over, nobody bothered to watch the whole thing.

Over the years, I’ve been very generous, buying these women gifts and/or giving money at their weddings. And still, none of them have ever asked me t