Carolyn Hax: Bonding over estranged daughters now feels like a competition

Hi Carolyn: I have a dear friend who occasionally lapses into a perplexing pattern. We both have estranged adult daughters and share a camaraderie regarding these circumstances. Occasionally when she’s upset, she starts almost yelling at me, saying things like, “Well, you don’t understand because you have a husband and other children.” I’m not sure if this is true, since even if the pain of an estranged child is blunted by the existence of other children, it still HURTS — and her delivery feels almost accusatory, like I’ve done something wrong.